What is stopping you from living your dream life?

OUR BOOGIE MONSTER

 

In business and in life, we may feel that we are not where we would like to be, we keep on dreaming of our goals and our vision, but we don’t take action or make the leap that will takes us there. But why is this? What is actually stopping us from getting there? Well, from my perspective and experience, it all comes down to our dearest monster: our fears.

 

I have been there, and I still have many fears and doubts before launching a new project or deciding to take a new risk. It’s scary. But to be honest, I haven’t yet met any entrepreneur who is not afraid of failure. We have opportunities every day to fail our way forward, and most probably, we will encounter obstacles and eminently fail. It is part of progress.


As entrepreneurs, we innovate with new ideas, projects and ways to do business and when we go out of our comfort zone, we feel anxious. What stops entrepreneurs from progressing in their journeys is not only fear of failure, but also fear of discomfort and fear of the unknown.

But, if we’re afraid, we won’t give it our best so we end up holding back and playing it safe. We want to be successful, but we don’t want to pay the prize to take action. We are so afraid of failing that we sometimes decide to not even give it a try.


In business and in life, we may feel that we are not where we would like to be, we keep on dreaming of our goals and our vision, but we don’t take action or make the leap that will takes us there. But why is this? What is actually stopping us from getting there? Well, from my perspective and experience, it all comes down to our dearest monster: our fears.

SURVIVING OR THRIVING?

I get it, our brains are wired to avoid whatever makes us frightened. Our most basic instinct is survival, and surviving is about risk mitigating. So, what is comfortable and predictable to us, feels naturally safe. But here is the catch, in business and in life, we are not seeking to survive, we are seeking to thrive, and this requires courage to get out of our comfort zone.

Although at one point we all may fear failure, failure can mean different things to different people. The beauty about failure is that it’s entirely up to us to decide how to look at it. We can choose to see failure as something awful – like it was the end of the world or it meant that we were not good enough- or we can see it as a learning experience -as a natural and necessary part of progress-.

Think about it this way, failure for someone might be a great learning experience for someone else, so we can learn from our mistakes too.

The key is to learn how to use these fears to your advantage, rather than dreading it. And here is the difference, if we take the responsibility of our desire to thrive, we will eventually need to take responsibility of failing and getting up.

 

 

TOUCHING OUR EGO

When the fear of failure paralyses us, it’s because it touches our ego, and our ego doesn’t want us to look bad. We fear that our mistakes will tell that we are not good enough, but in reality, failure does not say that you are a failure but that something didn’t go right.

The problem is that you don’t do things until you know you are going to do it well or perfectly. You are waiting for the perfect moment to arrive, whenever you are ready. My advice: don’t wait for the perfect time to start. Being prepared is highly overrated. If you are working on something important, you will never feel ready. You are bound to feel uncertain, unprepared and unqualified. And here comes a fine line between preparation and procrastination.

Sometimes, you end up spending more time getting ready than actually doing the thing. And I understand that while some preparing is needed to be ready, but  always try to be mindful of your action.

Don’t wait for the perfect time to start. If you are working on something important, you will never feel ready. 

START BEFORE YOU’RE READY

If you think about this, we all start in the same place: no money, no resources, no contacts, no experience, but the difference is that the ones who make it choose to start anyway. Getting ready feels comfortable because there is no leap and no real commitment in place.

It is a distracting loophole because you start to think that you don’t know what you are doing so you need to spend more time getting ready.

But seriously, you will not have the answers until you start taking action. That is how you learn. You need to stop second guessing and start before you are ready. Specially with creative work, it’s better to embrace the mindset of let’s just see what happens.

Instead of eternally waiting for the momentum, create your own momentum, as it may not arrive if you keep on waiting. You may feel both excited and confused when facing a new challenge. And this is great! You can use these emotions to your advantage!

When you get started, something magical happens: you turn your emotions into energy and your energy into action, and your action creates the momentum you have been waiting for. It is all up to you to start!

ONE FINAL NOTE

It may be that our fear of failure creates this big monster between us and what we want. But trust me, what you have right now is enough. You can plan, delay, and revise all you want, but what you have now is enough to start. 

Who you are, what you have and what you know right now is good enough to get going. The game is about figuring out what works and what doesn’t and taking failures forward. You will not learn from waiting for things to happen or to be prepared to not fail. If you learn from your failure, you can’t call it failure again.

 

What do you think? What is really stopping you from getting where you want to be?

All the best,

Naomi Rodriguez